I have always been very open with my children about the big topics and since my husband and I are always listening to NPR and watching the news, I know my older son knows pretty much what is going on with the world. He asks us lots of questions. We heard a great piece on NPR the other day about an 11 or 12 year old and his feelings on his parent’s divorce. It was enlightening to hear what a child that age thought of something as big as divorce. So my son (who is 11) asked me why I got divorced from his dad. I was never married to his dad who is a deadbeat in every sense of the word. He has never been a part of our life. I was a teen mom and I broke up with his dad the week I found out I was pregnant. So I told my son that we weren’t married but that sometimes people just are not meant to be with each other. I told him that I was happy being his only parent and that it was a good thing because I met his new dad. I think if more people spent longer dating that the divorce rates would be lower. My husband and I have been together for over seven years but we have only been married for four. We got engaged on our two year anniversary and then married three days before our third anniversary. We also lived together for 7 months before we got married. I think living together before marriage was a must for us. I am glad to have known all his little quirks before we were tied together legally. I guess I think about marriage differently than some though. My parents are still together and have been for over 34 years but my mom was married before my dad. My paternal grandmother divorced her husband (who died before I was born) to get married to my pawpaw. My maternal grandmother divorced her husband to get married to my other pawpaw.
Why do you think divorce rates are so high? Is it our culture? Have you ever had to talk to your kids about divorce?