A Busy Moms New Freedom to Be Spontaneous

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It is hard to believe that in September of this year I had been married for five years and with my husband for eight. Eight years may not seem like a long time to people who have been married for like ten or twenty but when I think about it, I have been with my husband since I was old enough to drink. I have been with him since I got my degrees and I was with him for half a year before I ever got a license. So pretty much all of my adult life. Being together so long it is easy to stop being spontaneous. We schedule our whole lives and we are like ships in the night passing without seeing each other. It has made for some tough times for me because of my depression. I feel unwanted and unloved even though logically I know that I am half of the problem. I told myself recently I needed to work on that and have some freedom to be spontaneous when #TheMoodStrikes

Most of the time my husband is working. He works three jobs now so I rarely see him before 9:30 pm and he leaves the house around 6 am.  I understand that he is tired and stressed so I do not mind too much when he wants to game on the very few nights that he is off from his second job. He is tired and he has anxiety which he takes medicine for which has slowed his libido down a ton. It doesn’t stop the depression from making me think that he doesn’t want to hang out with me because I am ugly or not fun anymore. I have been placed on a new depression medicine that is helping. It really is but it has been causing vaginal dryness which doesn’t really make me feel in the mood. It is very rare that I am in the mood. In fact, the few times my husband has been ready to go, I am usually working late into the night.

That is definitely a huge problem of ours. I am always on the computer and he is always at work or gaming. If we are ever both in the mood, then we have to deal with the vaginal dryness issue. I was a bit embarrassed to talk about that aspect of my life but I found out that is very common in women. Many things can cause vaginal dryness like medicines, allergies, childbirth, menopause, and breastfeeding. There are many other causes and so many women have experienced it or will experience it. So I am not alone and I want to talk about how I used my discomfort to break through and create a night of fun just for my husband and I because of K-Y® Liquibeads.  I have always been a little nervous about the ‘personal’  or ‘family planning’ aisle at Walmart. It has condoms, lubricants, and feminine products. I knew that I had to get over it and explore my options because I deserve to be able to have fun with my husband. I even found a $1 coupon off K-Y® products at coupons .com.

Now that I found it, I need to have a good night for us. Now we are both very busy so I knew we couldn’t do a go out date night. We are broke all the time so we couldnt do anything fancy either. It is good that my husband hates going out and he is a very simple guy. Dinner and a movie in front of the fire is his type of night so that is what I gave him. At first he just thought we were doing a nice night together. I made hamburgers on the grill and we watched a great movie.  I surprised him with a basket of candy and the K-Y®. I explained what it was for and he was totally on board. All in all, it was one of the best nights I have had in a long time.  I did burn the hamburgers a little but that is too be expected. My husband is a hottie, I can’t be blamed for being excited and distracted.

If you have never used K-Y® Liquibeads, I created a small tutorial to help.

Super easy to use. After it has been inserted, the box says to wait 30 min before intimacy but I could feel it working in 15 minutes. Plus that is plenty of time for foreplay or just cuddling. I think more nights like this are in my future thanks to KY Liquibeads.