KY Intimacy Experiment Day #2

Day 2 of the  KY Intimacy Experiment is aptly named It's Not Just About Sex. Day 2 is about tracking how often you and your partner interact in positive ways. According to the pamphlet, “Studies show that successful relationships tend to have a high ratio of positive to negative interactions. Experts believe that the ratio should be 5:1.”

Some examples of positive interactions include:

  • Kissing
  • Hugging
  • Holding hands
  • Having a postive conversation

Bickering was given as an example of a negative interaction. I think actively and inactively ignoring your partner is an example as well. And this is where we have a problem.

Eric and I took our journal and wrote down our interactions for most of the day. Since it was a family barbeque at my grandparents, our interactions were mostly positive. We always sit in the same over-sized armchair together, I always make Eric and the kid's plates and he makes the drinks, and we always hold hands when we sit outside with the ‘grownups'.  Of course, as soon as we get home, the negative interactions start. Whose turn it is to choose where to eat out for dinner since we werent home for me to cook is always an argument. Also, one person is usually on the computer while the other person watches the baby in another room. Its like an ignore session always whether its intentional or not.

They suggested that couples increase oxytocin by hugging. 3 hugs lasting at least 30 seconds is all they ask that you do. And 30 seconds is a long time when you are counting it. It does help though. By the third hug, I felt myself melting into my husband and missing the days when we used to hug often. They draw on the hugging exercise for the night exercise as well. They suggest facing each other, looking into your partner's eyes, and melting into a close embrace. Then keep hugging until you are completely free of tension. It was kinda silly when we tried it but we kept it up  and I do have to admit I didnt really feel like having sex after that. I just wanted to cuddle all night 🙂

All I can say now is I cant wait for tomorrow exercise, Everything Old is New Again!

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Disclosure: I wrote this post while participating in a blog campaign on behalf of K-Y® Brand and also received product samples to help facilitate my review. All thoughts and opinions are 100% honest and my own, and were not influenced in any way.

Author: Kat

Kat is a married mom of three kids aged 15, 7, and 4 that lives close to Birmingham, AL. She loves cats, books, cooking, hockey (especially the Chicago Blackhawks & Pittsburgh Penguins), and watching movies. She is an admitted nerd, comic book lover, action figure & barbie doll collector, blackjack dealer, beginner croupier, and all around queen of the dorks. You can reach her at everydimecounts@gmail.com to talk about product reviews, press trips, sponsorships, or brand messaging.